Finding Your Purpose When No Calling Is Calling You

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While some people seem to find their calling, purpose, and passion in life, others feel lost, making false starts, going where their parents or others push them. How do you find your calling when you feel nothing calling you?

Why so many people don’t find their calling

A common experience most of us had during childhood was an adult asking: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” For many, the answers were often fantasies that drifted away with age and more insight into the “real world.”

Many people graduate from high school still not knowing “what they want to be.” Some go to college or are pushed toward higher education without a real sense of purpose or direction. Many change their majors. Some graduate and start careers they don’t necessarily feel passionate about. Others forgo college and go into the family business, occupation, or whatever job they can find.

This disappointment and lack of finding one’s calling is often rooted in someone never doing a thorough self-examination and settling on something or being overly influenced by others, rather than carefully considering the larger picture.

What can you do to identify your calling?

The most important answer to this question will come in the next section. But there are some things you can do to understand yourself better and knowing that, will help you better identify your calling.

First, pay attention to what captivates you in life. What makes you feel excited? What makes you feel passionate? What issues upset you? What things would you like to change to make life better?

Second, reflect on things from your past that you felt were your calling. Think about what things you never pursued. Think about the things you pursued and were disappointed over. Ask why. This can help you avoid such mistakes in the future.

Third, ask your family and friends what things they think might be your calling. Pay attention to the things they identify that truly excite you.

Fourth, think about your core values. You won’t find contentment in pursuits that conflict with your values sometimes even in small ways. These are warning signs of directions to avoid.

Trust God to lead you to your calling

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

– Jeremiah 29:11

Surprisingly, the Merriam-Webster dictionary has a very spiritual-sounding definition of calling: “A strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence.”

So many of us focus on self-reliance so strongly that we can forget to bring God into many dilemmas we face. But God desires to help us. He wants to lead us. But the problem is, in looking for our calling, we fail to first call on God.

“Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.”

–Jeremiah 33:3

In finding your calling, God must always be your very first consideration. That’s why it’s so vital to consider our core values in every action we take, the thought we hold, and the word we speak.

God cannot lead us unless we let go of the wheel and allow him to drive, putting our full trust in Him.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

– Proverbs 3:5-6

God has a purpose for each of us

If you want to find your calling, pray. Ask God to lead you, to show you. The more you pray, the more God will show signs in your life to help steer you in the right direction. The first step is humbling yourself, acknowledging and loving God, putting Him first above all in your life. Give God your troubles, and He will give you solutions. God will deliver you to the calling that was meant for you by him. God put each one of us here for a very specific purpose.

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”

–1 Peter 5:6-7