What the Bible Says about Children, Marriage, and Family

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In the Bible, everything starts with family. A loving family atmosphere contributes to a loving world. Here his advice from the Bible on the various aspects of husband and wives, family life, and raising children.

What the Bible says about marriage, family, and love

Everything starts with love. Loving your neighbor, your fellow human being, as you would yourself.  Marriage starts with love. Children are born into a family out of love. Children grow up healthy and wise when raised in a loving environment. Love holds families together for generations.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

–1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Husbands and wives

In the Bible, marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

– Genesis 2:24

Men and women are to dedicate themselves toward one another in marriage.

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,”

– Ephesians 5:22-33

Raising children

When children are raised in a healthy environment that is filled with love, they spread that to the next generation, and hopefully it continues to the next and so on.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

–Proverbs 22:6

Disciplining children

The Bible also teaches that children need proper discipline. The Bible speaks of the “rod” which is a spanking. It’s difficult to discipline a child you love, you don’t want to inflict pain upon them, but you do so because you love that child, because you know it is what is good for the child in the long run.

“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”

– Proverbs 13:24

Some people today disagree with this strong form of discipline, but the teachings of the Bible contain God’s eternal wisdom.

“The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.”

–Proverbs 29:15

A child that was raised without any sense of discipline is not simply a problem for the family the child grows up in, but that child will be undisciplined in the world as well.

Children interacting with parents

The Bible teaches that children need to honor and obey their parents.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ (this is the first commandment with a promise), ‘that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.'”

–Ephesians 6:1-3

Caring for the extended family

The Bible tells us we are to care for our family, the elderly, the sick, and for orphans and widows.

“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

– 1 Timothy 5:8

Anyone who fails to do these things is acting heretical to the teachings of Jesus Christ.

“But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.”

– 1 Timothy 5:4

Divorce

While Jewish law had decrees for divorce, Jesus said this about divorce:

“And the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.””

– Mark 10:8-12

“He answered, ‘Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ”Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.'”

– Matthew 19:4-6